My very first week caregiving, and my patient has passed away? HELP!?
September 3rd, 2010
Okay first of all, My last day of work for him was on a Thursday. I knew he wasn’t doing so well, but I didn’t contact his daughter until Saturday. She then told me that he had died on Friday, later in the day. I felt so bad that I had talked about him getting better in an email, and then her having to tell me that he already passed away. He was 96 so I guess it’s understandable. I need to knwo how to write her a sympathy note and if it’s okay to send her flowers. thank you God Bless
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Dear Pink,
It would be very kind, and I am sure much appreciated to send a card and flowers.
Even though you only were with this gentleman a week, I’m sure you formed a bond. You seem like a very caring person. I can only tell you that my mom’s caregivers were extremely important to me. When my mom passed away, they were with me and gave me courage to say good-bye to someone I dearly loved. So I think sending your condolences would be a very appropriate and thoughtful gesture.
Your note could say:
Dear ___________,
I was so sorry to hear about your father’s passing. Although I only knew him a short while, I can tell you that it was a priviledge to know and care for him.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Sincerely,
You
The best to you in your future as a caregiver. I am sure you will find it very rewarding. Seniors are like jewels….to be treasured.
I’d ask whether the patient had a favorite charity that he gave to.
Some folks dislike the cut flower thing as it reminds them of the inevitable death of cut ones.
Growing plants and/or fowers are ok if there’s no charity to give to.