Caring for Alzheimer's

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I’ve heard the rumours, but I’d really like to know if they are true.
I really will be so upset if she really does leave corrie, because I adore the Sophie & Sian storyline, It really is my favourite. Can someone confirm it from a reliable source please? thank you.

A 91-year old lady was in tears and noteably being mistreated by her ‘caregiver’; My sis and I asked the elderly lady if she needed help with this, and she puckered up, tears starting to roll, as she said "Yes, I would…it’s SOOOO hard". The receptionist at the hospital where were were was also a witness to this as, was several patients. My sis—who is VERY outspoken—got in the caregiver’s FACE and said, "How would YOU like to be in the clutches of someone like YOU?"…to which she told my sister to butt out. My sister said, "Oh No! I will NOT butt out! You’ve got a stickey wickette on you now lady! You will not abuse anyone again—not on my watch!
…& we found out the name of her boss and the phone #, to which my sis called her boss right there. I got called into see my sergeon, but the drama continued (My sis said that after I left, she talked to the boss of the ‘caregiver’ and the boss started to protect the C.G (ofcourse) and the C.G. came over to my sis and yelled to her boss (over the phone)…."she called me a B****!"…and my sis said to the boss…"I sure did, but I wouldn’t have called her that if she hadn’t been one,,,but she WAS a B*****!" and I have witnesses…. You can’t call my supervisor, bcz I don’t HAVE ONE….I am not an employee here…and most of the witnesses aren’t either! We are BY-STANDERS WHO REFUSE TO STANDBY & watch this abuse!" …& THIS PHONE CALL IS NOT The last you’ll hear of it either."
Then, the old lady wanted to call her brother…(WHO I guess pays the caregivers just over FIVE FIGURES per year to take care of his sister..but who, the lady says has told her (he) wishes she would DIE!" So, my Sis dials his # for the 91-yr old lady, and she talks & cries to her brother. (The delimma is now my Sis knows she’s got the brother’s # in her phone (from the call), and wonders if he would help the old lady …. or would this cause her problems (if he really has said he wishes she would die)? I think she should tread very lightly since the relationship of the brother & sister could be very VOLITILE…and she should contact the head/director of the caregiving company. She has alread gotten the hospital on it— (& those people don’t take this stuff lightly at ALL!)…could be she’s done enough.
I think now, we should just offer the lady up to God and let go. She has no way of getting hold of the lady anyway —- excepting thru her brother (great!) The hospital is not going to forget about it anyway…& they’ll find a way to get hold of her.
It’s just so sad, that people who once were vital people, end up so alone and so "brow-beaten". She was once a model in Chicago for Clairol….. OMG! and here she is scared, tiny, humped-over, using a walker instead of the wheelchair she should have been in, just because the caregiver said taxi-drivers don’t pick-up ppl in wheelchairs as quick as they do ppl with walkers. So, this one-time model with RAVEN Black hair (she told us), is at everyone’s mercy and "living" only because of God’s ‘good’ graces. What "Grace" is this?
Should my sis call the brother? …and if you think so, what should she say to him? OR>>>should she leave it where it is? and offer it up?

How do you ever get the smell of poop out of the outer shorts? I have tried spray & wash. I have tried baking soda. I have tried soaking an hour in clorox. I have tried washing in plain cold water, then warm water & detergent. The stain comes out but not the smell. The underwear is cotton and can be washed out but I don’t know what to do with the nylon shorts. We cannot find pull ups with padding in the front & back in XXL like he is and he is cognitive enough and ambulatory so will not let me change a tabbed diaper on him. No custom order pull ups are available for him.

Any soaking ideas?

I’ll try to keep this as consise as humanely possible:
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Great Aunt Dies. (mid 80s, Alzheimers. Within last 3 days).
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Her "next of kin" is terminally ill & in Care Facility. Can not be reached. Has no info anyway. Not coherant.
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Great Aunt had been removed from her original Hospice Care to ANOTHER Hospice Care Facility that is UNKNOWN. Both unknown.
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Aunt passes away.
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Someone (unknown) phoned adult relative who had a brain aneurysm (6 yrs ago) and is = to a young child, to give details. All she remembers is they said Auntiie Gwennie died. She did not write down what was said. Caller i.d. says RESTRICTED.
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The only other "next of kin" is a relative who’s recovering from brain surgery. (I only WISH I was trolling, kidding, or lying). She doesn’t know anything and is in NYC.
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No, there is no foul play suspected.
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I don’t know how this process works. There is no one (able enough) to ASK. I have no idea about any last directives, or her wishes. She wasn’t capable of complex thought for years. I don’t know if they pronounce someone dead at Hospice, or they send them to Hospital, or the Morgue, or what. I don’t know where (her body) she is. I’ve been searching, on-line, to get a list of possible Hospice Care Centers, Morgues, Mortuaries..even Arizona newspaper obits.. but I can’t get any info. I understand medical and death records are private, but if the "next of kin" are not capable, then I have to find her and make arrangements. There’s no one else.
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I do not have her Social Security Number. No one does.

>>>QUESTION:
When one passes at unknown facility..
WHERE ARE THEY TAKEN? WHAT HAPPENS TO THE BODY?
Hospital? Morgue? Coronor? Do any of the above RECORD this anywhere? She lived in Arizona. I live in California.
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Getting panicky.
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Is there a web-site, or Hospice Care Directory..
I could go to/phone to take care of her body?

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My Q&As repeat themselves lately and I don’t know why. Yahoo techs haven’t told me why it’s doing this. Sorry. I know it’s obnoxious, but I can’t make it stop.
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there are some groups who believe in equal parenting (despite history of DV), false allegations of rape and DV and punishment of women (although men also make false claims against women); attack DV services (that would also help men).

Do they seek equality with a vengeance?

xyonline:

The fathers’ rights movement will continue to seek an equality concerned with fathers’ ‘rights’ and status rather than the actual care of children (Rhoades, p. 156). The fathers’ rights movement will continue to pursue ‘equality with a vengeance’ (Rhoades, 2000, p. 155). It prioritises formal principles of equality over positive parenting and the well-being of women and children, conflates children’s welfare with parental equality and ignores actual caregiving divisions of labour. Its advocates will persist in trying to re-establish paternal authority and fathers’ decision-making related to their children’s and ex-partners’ lives (Bertoia & Drakich, 1993; Cornell, 1998,; Stacey, 1998,
from www.canlaw.com (FR group)

False memory, false sexual abuse claims, vengeance, are all the diseases of women.
"Women get what they want by revising what they had."
If it isn’t true, they make it up and convince themselves it is true and men end up in jail or executed as a result.
On the contrary, I believe these groups are hurting legitimate masculinists. As well, these groups are attacking services that would help them; making false claims; and avoiding male-vs-male violence & only attacking women.

1st off thank u for ur help,any ideas??
I do not make enough money to pay for assisted living or put her in a retirement home and I work 2nd shift which stinks bcoz this is when she needs someone with her the most(she gets creeped out badly at night and also tells me people are trying to break in our home-when no one is. Even found her on the floor in the corner of my room in fear.)
Some say live off her retirement money,but it isnt much & I have applied many places for daytime work–hoping this might happen,bcoz it would be at least better for my mom.

~~Thanks again for any help u can come up with or know of to try!!~~

It scares me a lot given some of his recent interviews and the campaigns reluctance to have him in ANY open interview.

We could very well be putting a guy with known temper & dementia a button’s push away from Nukes.

OK, here’s the story.
I live with my mum, sister & 2 grandparents. My dad lives across the other side of australia. We are not particularly wealthy (we live in our grandparents’ house). My grandfather has alzheimer’s and Parkinsons, and my grandmother has her 8th bout of cancer and limited time to live. My sister and I share a room but i have my own little section. I’m 15 by the way. I go to a private school and i love it there because i don’t have to see my sister, but one problem is that its 1 hour away and i am a competitive swimmer, swimming 16 hours a week and in year 10 with shitloads of work to do and no time to do any of it.
My sister and I are extremely different in many ways. We clash horribly. Sharing a room doesn’t help one bit, but there are no other rooms in the house. I can’t study with music on, and she can’t study without music on. She has it on her stereo FULL BLAST and when i ask her to at least turn it down she goes INSANE at me! That is only one of the many, many problems that we have.
Another is my grandparents. I know they’re old and slow but i am a very impatient person and i can’t help that! It’s in my half-german genes. They drive me CRAZY. My grandpa gets very confused and trashed my half of the room the other day looking for the toaster. I can’t stand things being untidy. That is again only one of the many problems i have with them.
My mum doesn’t understand me one bit. Correction, she does but she chooses not to care or help me. When i seek support from her she tells me to pull myself together and deal with what i’ve got. Which is true i guess, but i’m a teenager. I need privacy, space, and this is what i’m not getting! I’m going INSANE.
One more thing. I know this is self-inflicted stress, but if i acheive this, this will be at least one thing in my life i’m happy with. I’m trying to lose weight to make up for being so ugly. NOt anorexic, just a bit skinnier. I know i’m not fat. But i feel fat! So i want to get rid of this bloated feeling. It sucks being the ugly one in my group of friends, so i have to make up for that by being the skinniest.
I think i am either a little bit depressed or just get really stressed easily. I hate my house, it’s so old and yucky. The carpet in my room makes me want to vomit. So does my reflection. One factor that does not help my mental state is that i get literally no time to myself, it takes 2 hours to get to/from school, then 2 hours of swimming, i’m supposed to be doing 3 hours of homeowrk and study every night too. And of course, i’m exhausted by the time i get home from school every day.
I cry almost every day. It’s terrible. I hate it. As in the question, i honestly thing i’m going CRAZY. Please help me!
And thanks for reading this. It probably sounds so childish, i know. But please put yourself in my shoes. I can’t cope with life the way it’s going for me.

mental illnesses? Why are people more depressed & schizophrenic? Why are we seeing bi-polar disorders & malfunctioning thyroids, osteoperosis, acid reflux, Chron’s disease, Alzheimers, anxiety attacks, narcolepsy, as well as an increase in autism & ADHD in our children? Why is our cancer rate climbing? Why is AIDS wiping out so many people? Why do we have thousands of new medications on the market each year to combat the newest & latest malfunction of our bodies and/or our brains?

It seems to me like we are degenerating rather than evolving.

Your thoughts?
Some people in the Bible lived to be 900+ years old.

I have been married for a year and a half. Before we married, I was with him for about 6 months & then got pregnant. We were in love & had talked about possible marriage in the future, but we decided to go ahead and do it because of the pregnancy. (he claims the pregnancy had nothing to do with the marriage, but he admitts he would not have asked me that soon if I was not pregnant)

Honestly, I do not think we would be together now if we did not have a child. I moved in with my husband after we got engaged. As soon as I moved in it was like something changed. He acted totally different. It is basically emotional abuse. He turns everything into a competition (household chores, amount of sleep we each get, etc). When I was pregnant, I had lots of morning sickness/ nausea and he accused me of faking it just to get out of helping him clean the house. He gets mad over the smallest things & yells and screams and calls me a bitch, selfish, lazy, etc. Then its like he snaps out of it, apologizes, and says it does not mean anything because he was mad.

FYI: I do all of the cooking, half of the cleaning, I am in college full time (I am in my last year), I work 4 days a week, & and do most of the caregiving for our 10 month old son. …and he calls me lazy all of the time. I do not know what more I can do to make him happy.

I am really considering divorce. I am not really attracted to him anymore… I guess all of the fighting and yelling has made me feel totally disconnected from him. Sometimes he is a very good and sweet man. He seems to be totally in love with me & I would feel guilty leaving him and tearing our family apart, but I just do not feel the same anymore. I hate being yelled at and put down all of the time….