Caring for Alzheimer's

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I dont even know where to start really…it’ll be easiest to explain the financial problems first. I live with my mom whos a single parent who dropped out in 10 grade because she had to take care of her mother who was gaining alzheimers. So she has no education whatsoever, she got married had me and my "dad"commited suicide when i was a baby so there goes more money lost. I’m 16 now and we’ve been living off social security my entire life we’ve NEVER lived anywere nice it’s always been in the projects or a trailer, then she get’s re-married to some closet faggot when i was 6. He could never hold down a job so we ended up living with my grandparents….He ended up pulling me out of school in the 4th grade and he moved us out of state where we lived in a tent for 6 months………..Ended up taking what little money we had and leaving my mom and going back to his ex wife.

I got in some legal trouble back home so we left the state when my mom finally had a good paying job there 9.50$ an hour cleaning condo’s….She keeps holding that over my head and won’t just forget it. So we move here and i decide i want to go back to school and try to graduate my last 2 years (im 16 now) but oh of course not because by the time school starts we’ll be moving to some other place because she’s not making an effort to get a job whatsoever….. She’s "trying" to go back to school now to which also screws me over because if she’s going to school i won’t be able too…She says when i move out when im 18 she’s gonna be homeless living under a bridge cause that’s when she loses social security…I just don’t know what to do ive been so close to commiting suicide i just can’t go through with it because if i do she’ll kill herself too. I just wanna get away from all this you know? I want to just run away and get away from all this but if i leave i think she’ll kill herself. I can’t get councelling or anything i just need to know what to do, should i run away it seems like everyone elses life comes before mine please help

My dad is 83 and displays signs of alzheimers – He’s always been a bully (psychologically) an resents any suggestion that he may need help – Mum and I are frightened to say anything to him. I live with them so I can take care of and protect my Mum as well as I can

I’m currently a sophomore in high school, and i want to start looking for scholarship opportunities. I need advice on how to start my search, or if anyone happens to know of any i can apply for. I know it’s still early, but i want to make sure i’m doing things the right way so i’m not struggling when junior and senior year come. I’m still trying to decide what i want to do in the future, but i’m starting to narrow down my choices.

My school is one of the top public schools in the state and nation, and my GPA is about 4.3. (On a 5 point scale.) In addition to that, I’m in 4 clubs, i did volunteering at a day care for several years (it closed when i was in 8th grade; i’m currently looking for other volunteer opportunities, and i did do some work freshman year), and i’m doing a sport (water polo) for the first time this spring.

Outside of school, i’m looking for a job now and will probably start working weekends. Also, I’m not quite sure how much this affects my chances, but as far as my economic status is concerned my family is about 0 over the poverty limit. My dad isn’t working due to the fact he’s taking care of my grandma- who suffers from Alzheimers, and my mom has health issues that prevented her from working for a long time.

Thanks in advance.
Typo: My GPA is about 4.4.

My sister has been verbally abusive to me all my life. It got worse 6 years ago when my dad had a stroke and I became POA. I’ve taken care of all of my dads bills and caregiving. Unfortunately his 1st caregiver who he adored took advantage of him. She coarsed him into doing a reverse mortgage on his home. She took a lot of money. I had her arrested as I had a lot of proof. My sister blames me for this unfortunate circumstance. She accuses me of stealing my dads money. She tells me I am going to prision. She has left me 40 verbally abusive messages in the past two weeks. I wont listen to them, I delete them. The caregiver my dad has now is wonderful. She has been with him for 3 years. My sister lives 300 miles away and never visits my dad. She recently called APS on my dads caregiver because she says she is worried about his care. She doesn’t listen to one word I say. She came to visit my dad back in June and took him to a bank so she could take money. He was mentally incompetent to make financial decisions at that time and I have a letter from his doctor. I’ve changed my phone numbers in the past. How can I get her to leave me alone.

This story is very long but here is the short version my dad was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease when i was in 3rd grade aand he passed away when i was in 10th grade and that was two years ago.. im still super upset about it and i miss him with all of my heart i didnt have a lot of time to get to know him but the time that i did have with him was super special and i miss him so much is it weird that i am still grieving after two years ??

My husband and I would like to be stable someday – large savings, no debt, house of our own, car paid off, etc. But it seems so impossible.

I work 32 hours a week (no chance of going full time right now – positions are frozen at my company because of the economy). Other jobs in my field (mental health, caregiving) only pay hour, and I make .87. As I’m not full time, we don’t get benefits.

My husband is a full time student – half of his tuition is covered by Fin Aid, the rest is out of pocket. He has not worked in almost 11 months.

I have 0 of debt (no student loans). When we met, my husband had ,500 of debt, all in credit cards. We’ve gone through the cycle of paying them down, and raising them up when I changed jobs and we lived on credit for a few months. We’re still recovering.

Monthly, I take home about 00-00. I only make around 20k after taxes each year.

We have our car payment, rent, monthly bills, gas, groceries, etc etc etc. After all is said and done, we don’t have anything left over at the end of my paycheck. I keep maticulous financial records and we know where every penny is going – all to bills. We do not buy anything frivilous at all – we nipped that in the bud when we got married. We haven’t even gone out for lunch at mcdonalds in a year. The dollar menu is a little too pricy.

We live in the cheapest place we could find (0/month), and I bought the car from my dad’s dealership so my payments are very reasonable.

I guiltly accepted an offer from my parents to be added to their cell phone plan, which I need for work, so we only pay /month for our phones.

Having only one income makes it difficult, but we get by. We get the bills paid, and still have a roof over our head. I realize though, that we can’t live like this forever. In a few years, we would like to start looking into buying a house, but how on earth can I save 30k for the down payment, pay off the debt, AND keep our bills paid up?

Looking for another job really is not an option right now – I work in the field I went to school for (psychology), at the only mental health organization in our county. If I went somewhere else, I would surely make less.

Sorry for this being so long, I have a lot weighing on my mind.
Sorry forgot to mention:

Total savings: .
Total debt: ,000, not including car.
We still have 3 years left of our car loan – we can’t give it back now lol. But thank you for the advice. As for my husband quitting school – he did one online class this summer, and this fall will be his first quarter taking a full load in 3 years. For 9 months he sat on his bum all day (I dont want to get into how messy our house is because he wont clean). I work nights, and getting a weekend job would be great if I had a set schedule – which I dont Rock…meet hard place.
I worked two part time jobs all four years I was in school, which I went full time. My husband has a hard time concentrating, which is why he left school before. He has a year left before he gets his AA

I’m really trying to encourage my mom who suffered from a mini-stroke last July to get involved with people. She lives in her own home after having taken care of my dad who has Alzheimers. My dad is in a nursing home but she feels lonely. I see her every day and we go visit my dad every night. Still, it’s not enough for her because she finds the days long. Anyone out there who’s 80 and still active? Just wondering because I need inspiration.
What can she do if she phones her friends for coffee, etc. and they say they’ll call her back but never do because they’re "too busy"? She gets discouraged when that happens.

My dad has Alzheimer’s/dementia and forgets a lot. But he FREQUENTLY mentions to me how I should look for a job with Westinghouse. No matter where I’m currently working, happy or not, he talks about Westinghouse. And it’s always like he’s mentioning it for the first time. Common with Alzheimer’s or not?

Are patients usually well cared for? This is supposed to be a good care home but I just want to make sure. I’m scared and afraid because I love my dad. My mom has kept him home until now but she’s getting very tired.

Its a long story so ill try to keep it short, shortly after moving in my house this guy that lives down the street from me came by to introduce himself and welcome me to the neighborhood, anyways we became good friends over a period of 6 months, he would stop by and give me Compliments on the shelving in my garage and he wanted to do the same thing but he didn’t have the money for it, along with other things he wanted to do, well one day he stop over to tell me his dad is 92 and he lives in CA and he thinks his dad has Alzheimer’s and he wanted to move his dad in to his place so he could take care of him rather putting his dad in a nursing home, I asked my friend how can you take care of him if your working, he said his girlfriend lives with him and she would take care of his dad but she wanted to be paid for it, so my friend asked me if 00, a month is unreasonable to charge his dad for the care, I told him I don’t think so but I asked him how are you going to get paid, he said his dad is worth over million dollars and his dad has one hundred and ninety thousand dollars in his checking account and his dad would just sign checks and my friend would write out the check amount to him self for cash, I told him he should get a lawyer because the way your doing this may not be legal, well anyways he didn’t take my advice, now with in the last two months he bought a new truck and all new furniture and appliances and got his garage all done and had air conditioning installed in the garage, the other day he stopped over, we talked a little and I asked him, all this stuff you been buying is it your dads money that payed for it, he said yea but dad has more money then he knows what to do with, I asked him if his dad knows how much your writing the checks out for, he no, then I asked him if his dad has a Will, he said I think so, he said he thinks it all gos to his dads sister and he thinks he should get what he can before his sister gets it all.