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‘The Forgotten Man’, featuring actress Sandy Silver & actor Robert Webber. The focus is Alzheimer’s & how it afflicts a relationship. Directed by Tim Cash of ‘Far From Earth Films’ (farfromearthfilms.com) with Main Grip, Robert Slaney. Shot in Bend, Oregon. Dedicated to Stan & Alma, who went through such an ordeal. ‘The Forgotten Man’ on Itunes itunes.apple.com Lyrics It’s another rainy night In this cold shore-lined town Water beads down my window Dies without a sound Leaves fly through the sky Trees dance back and forth Winds announce their presence Howling from the North Sit here silently Watch the scene unfold Grown man weeps utterly Can’t believe what he’s told His girl of fifty years Can’t recall his name Eyes the storm outside Feels the anger feels the pain If you don’t mind Just sit low Tell you a story You’ll want to know ‘Bout the old man Whose love forgot about him He was an old man He didn’t understand What happened to the woman Whose life he gave What happened to the woman Who forgot his name Thunder softly speaks Past the lightning of the sky Sunshine rays stray slowly in Once clouds take heed and die Hurting tears always fall Past the strike of the heart Tears of joy overcome As the darkness departs Sit here with hands in lap Tears flow from his eyes Want to give him all my help Just a boy am I He’s seen the world at war Times that caused him strife His soul is hit again He loses the love of his life I’m sorry man but I don’t know what to do I wish that I …

If you’ve never seen the face of Alzheimers. This is a visit to my mom who is living now full time in a memory care assisted living facility. It is tragic but amazing. She is 76 years old and has been completely dependent for at least 11 years. Her happiness is astounding. Check out her high kick.

My grandma has a disease called Alzheimer’s It’s a disease (normally found in elders) where they lose their memory. Alzheimer’s disease is an irreversible degeneration of the brain that causes disruptions in memory, cognition, personality, and other functions that eventually leads to death from complete brain failure. Alzheimer’s disease is the 6th leading cause of death in the United States. This is a very sad disease and all we can do is support, and love and care for these people who are suffering with Alzheimer’s. Hopefully, they will find the cure to Alzheimer’s someday. view this site for more facts on Alzheimer’s www.ahaf.org

Tom Janicik and Patricia Mock’s song titled “Just Keep Holding On’ was inspired by the impact of Alzheimer’s on both of their Mom’s and their family’s lives. Please check out this video and share with us how you feel this song/video might make a difference in other people’s lives who are trying to cope with this devastating disease …

RIP Gma (1937-2010) ….anyways just curious if anyone else has lost a love one to Alzheimer’s.

Moira Brown speaks with Leonie Serediuk about how she is caring for her husband with Alzheimer’s. Leonie Serediuk Author, Caregiver, Speaker Book: “And Still Will I Trust Him-A Royal Journey Through Alzheimer’s” www.leonieserediuk.com

I have been married for a year and a half. Before we married, I was with him for about 6 months & then got pregnant. We were in love & had talked about possible marriage in the future, but we decided to go ahead and do it because of the pregnancy. (he claims the pregnancy had nothing to do with the marriage, but he admitts he would not have asked me that soon if I was not pregnant)

Honestly, I do not think we would be together now if we did not have a child. I moved in with my husband after we got engaged. As soon as I moved in it was like something changed. He acted totally different. It is basically emotional abuse. He turns everything into a competition (household chores, amount of sleep we each get, etc). When I was pregnant, I had lots of morning sickness/ nausea and he accused me of faking it just to get out of helping him clean the house. He gets mad over the smallest things & yells and screams and calls me a bitch, selfish, lazy, etc. Then its like he snaps out of it, apologizes, and says it does not mean anything because he was mad.

FYI: I do all of the cooking, half of the cleaning, I am in college full time (I am in my last year), I work 4 days a week, & and do most of the caregiving for our 10 month old son. …and he calls me lazy all of the time. I do not know what more I can do to make him happy.

I am really considering divorce. I am not really attracted to him anymore… I guess all of the fighting and yelling has made me feel totally disconnected from him. Sometimes he is a very good and sweet man. He seems to be totally in love with me & I would feel guilty leaving him and tearing our family apart, but I just do not feel the same anymore. I hate being yelled at and put down all of the time….

From what I remember the film follows an elderly man with Alzheimer’s as he sits at a park bench. He tries flirting at women as they pass by and eventually an older woman sits next to him. They flirt and he soon begins to fall for the women as their conversation carries (she also pulls out a photograph). Turns out the woman is actually his wife, and every weekend they meet at the park and fall in love again.

The short film may have won some awards at a film festival. Other than that, I remember seeing the video a few years back (on youtube) in my spanish class but I never was able to get the name of the video. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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Perhaps dating is the wrong word. Anyway, Valentine’s Day makes me realize that I’ve been essentially alone for eight or nine years now. In my late 50s, and spouse was diagnosed with early-onset Alzheimers when I was in my 40s. My spouse has now been in a nursing home for about a year and a half, and continues to slip away — however, life expectancy could be five or ten more years.

I visit my spouse at the nursing home several times a week. The rest of my life is filled with work. Our kids are all away at college or grad school now.

Yes, I know marriage is for better or worse. I’m not looking to get remarried or to fall in love, but I do miss being able to go out to dinner, to movies, to talk on the phone with someone, etc. I’m open to finding women friends to hang out with too, not just male friends. (There wasn’t time to expand my social life when caregiving for an Alzheimers patient, working full-time and parenting several kids.)

Is it ok to have friendships with members of the opposite sex if your spouse is in a nursing home? Our kids said it’s ok with them, but I’m torn.

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Our second year documentary production. The story of a man who is still deeply in love with his wife who suffers from alzheimers disease, standing by her side, caring for her day by day no matter what. Its our first serious film so…there are a few problems with it but I think it turned out pretty well. I missed a jump cut and a few audio glitches but it’ll do for now.

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