Caring for Alzheimer's

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OK, my grandma is coming here for thanksgiving. My dad HATES my grandma, and she is hear to take care of my mom, who has alzheimers. My dad wants to take me on a vacation for thanksgiving. Where should we go? Also, include airline fairs from San Diego.
I live in San Diego, California.

My mom is 66 years old. She was diagonsed with Alzheimer’s about 5 years ago. She is in the last stage of the disease. There’s nothing that she can do on her own, and she can’t speak. When she does, it’s nonsensical. She has 24 hour care. About a month ago, she was walking and fell. Now, she can’t walk at all. She is in a wheelchair. When we pick her up and have her walk 2 steps from her wheelchair into the shower, she pees and occasionally poops just from standing. She had a bed sore, but it is being treated. She obviously is nearing the end of her life…how long do you think she will live for?

I dont even know where to start really…it’ll be easiest to explain the financial problems first. I live with my mom whos a single parent who dropped out in 10 grade because she had to take care of her mother who was gaining alzheimers. So she has no education whatsoever, she got married had me and my "dad"commited suicide when i was a baby so there goes more money lost. I’m 16 now and we’ve been living off social security my entire life we’ve NEVER lived anywere nice it’s always been in the projects or a trailer, then she get’s re-married to some closet faggot when i was 6. He could never hold down a job so we ended up living with my grandparents….He ended up pulling me out of school in the 4th grade and he moved us out of state where we lived in a tent for 6 months………..Ended up taking what little money we had and leaving my mom and going back to his ex wife.

I got in some legal trouble back home so we left the state when my mom finally had a good paying job there 9.50$ an hour cleaning condo’s….She keeps holding that over my head and won’t just forget it. So we move here and i decide i want to go back to school and try to graduate my last 2 years (im 16 now) but oh of course not because by the time school starts we’ll be moving to some other place because she’s not making an effort to get a job whatsoever….. She’s "trying" to go back to school now to which also screws me over because if she’s going to school i won’t be able too…She says when i move out when im 18 she’s gonna be homeless living under a bridge cause that’s when she loses social security…I just don’t know what to do ive been so close to commiting suicide i just can’t go through with it because if i do she’ll kill herself too. I just wanna get away from all this you know? I want to just run away and get away from all this but if i leave i think she’ll kill herself. I can’t get councelling or anything i just need to know what to do, should i run away it seems like everyone elses life comes before mine please help

I’m currently a sophomore in high school, and i want to start looking for scholarship opportunities. I need advice on how to start my search, or if anyone happens to know of any i can apply for. I know it’s still early, but i want to make sure i’m doing things the right way so i’m not struggling when junior and senior year come. I’m still trying to decide what i want to do in the future, but i’m starting to narrow down my choices.

My school is one of the top public schools in the state and nation, and my GPA is about 4.3. (On a 5 point scale.) In addition to that, I’m in 4 clubs, i did volunteering at a day care for several years (it closed when i was in 8th grade; i’m currently looking for other volunteer opportunities, and i did do some work freshman year), and i’m doing a sport (water polo) for the first time this spring.

Outside of school, i’m looking for a job now and will probably start working weekends. Also, I’m not quite sure how much this affects my chances, but as far as my economic status is concerned my family is about 0 over the poverty limit. My dad isn’t working due to the fact he’s taking care of my grandma- who suffers from Alzheimers, and my mom has health issues that prevented her from working for a long time.

Thanks in advance.
Typo: My GPA is about 4.4.

Hi. I’m 16 years old and right now I have a lot on my shoulders. First, I have school and grades to concentrate on, but right now they are dropping a lot. See, I take care of my grandma. She has dementia/Alzheimers and I don’t know if you have ever known anyone with that or taken care of them, but it can be really hard and stressful. My day consists of getting up, getting ready for school, getting my brother off to school, and then leave to go to school. Try not to let my grades drop, then come straight home, cook dinner for my brother, and leave right after that to go over to my grandma’s house. Stay over there until six. I take my homework with me and try to do it over there, but it never works. She asks me the same question every 2 minutes, and I have to clean her house and cook her dinner as well, while my grandpa is at work. Then I come home, and feed my dogs, and finally eat dinner, get my shower, and try to finish as much hw as possible. It’s hard and stressful, and I will admit some days I just break down crying because of all of it. I don’t ever have time to hang out with my friends, and on the weekends, I try to catch up on work, and then go out and run errands for myself. I also babysit my cousins 2-3 times a week, to get some money and help my aunt out. So instead of coming home from watching my grandma at 6, I leave and go straight over there to babysit until 10. that’s when she gets home. A lot of my friends are getting mad at me and started not talking to me, because I haven’t had time to spend with them, and say I have too much on my shoulders. Sometimes I feel I should just drop out of school because my grades are going from straight A’s to straight D’s and a few F’s. I don’t think my teachers understand what all I go through at home. My mom has depression and can’t do much, so I basically run the house. Along with all that, I also have health problems, which stress only makes worse. I am hypoglycemic, and if I skip just one meal, I can pass out, which it’s really easy for me to skip meals a lot of the time, because I’m so busy, and I’ve just skipped breakfast before, and actually passed out at school. I also have anxiety which stress also makes it worse because it gives me anxiety attacks. I’m not on any meds right now, but I’m considering it. Anyways I know this is long, but I’m in desperate need of advice. What should I do? Continue doing all of this, or do I just need to focus on school. If I stop taking care of my grandma I don’t know who will be able to. Please help. I really need some advice here, so stressed out.

I answered the proposal with, If you dont have a problem with me taking my DYING breath to care for my parents, then YES we can get married, if you have a problem with that, then NO, we do not need to get married. I would care for his parents as well. Well both parents are disabled, one paralyzed where I use lifts, etc., requiring 24/7 care. Last July we bought a house and moved my parents in, my stepdad in a garage, he requires the 24/7 and smokes… My mom upstairs because she is on oxygen 24/7… All was fine til DEC 2010 when my stepdaughter called me a bitch and was never even corrected, as she would threaten to move back to grannys or cut. My husband condoned the behavior as my fault. So, I figured ok, unconditional love… all step children at one time or another will call thier stepparent a B….. at one time or another. In FEB 2011, she called her granny and told a lie on me… five or six weeks went by… One morning, I asked my husband if anyone was planning to correct the issue… He sat without saying anything, like NO nothing was going to be corrected. So, at this point I told him, Well, in this case you cannot blame the child… She learned from the best. He left and went fishing, while fishing… sent me a text that said, I WILL HAVE YOU DIVORCE PAPERS TO SIGN IN TEN DAYS. Nothing else. Well, I am in our house with 2 disabled parents and chose to move my parents back into their home, and had the power and water turned on and had movers the next day move. I moved to, because my stepdad is 24/7 care. So, now… we both decided to work things out… With us both putting in an effort to make things work. My sister has been coming 3 days a week, spending 2 nights so I can spend time with husband. (Only, she is not physically able to get him up or put him to bed, due to neck surgeries.) He has been complaining and saying it is not enough time. He NEVER comes to spend time with me as he feels it all should be at OUR house. Now, he wants me to have my parents in a nursing home… I brought my caregiving to his attention before we married and the ONLY reason we are in separate houses is because of the text he sent where he chose NOT to correct his child for lying. (He is a correctional officer.) His mom was against the marriage before it happened… and I believe he chose not to correct her for any repercution he may get from his mom. Well, the ONLY effort he puts in is he texts me… Never asks me to meet him at the park, get an ice cream, take a ride (as I can usually leave for an hour or so). It is ALL on me to come to OUR house, I personally feel as though he is punishing me for caring for my parents, by not putting any effort towards our marriage. Like I said, I can usually leave for an hour or so, come back, make a quick check and leave again for an hour or so, as long as everything is ok. I have NOT been spending any EXTRA time with him since March, he has put forth NO effort to spend time with me. I know we are deeply in NEED of counseling and he refuses. I was in an 18 year relationship that ended in infidelity and THAT was easier to deal with than to feel like I have to DEFEND taking care of my parent’s everyday for the rest of my life… My heart is aching while trying to remain strong to be able to care for my parents. I love my husband, and my parent’s very much! There is so much more to this… PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE if you took time to read this give me your HONEST opinions!!!!!!!!

I’m really trying to encourage my mom who suffered from a mini-stroke last July to get involved with people. She lives in her own home after having taken care of my dad who has Alzheimers. My dad is in a nursing home but she feels lonely. I see her every day and we go visit my dad every night. Still, it’s not enough for her because she finds the days long. Anyone out there who’s 80 and still active? Just wondering because I need inspiration.
What can she do if she phones her friends for coffee, etc. and they say they’ll call her back but never do because they’re "too busy"? She gets discouraged when that happens.

I dropped outta highschool at age 17 to ake care of my grandmother who has Alzheimers disease. I live with my mother and my grandmother. Im 18 now and Ive thrown my life out the door to help take care of my grandmother with my mom. Its been a year now and I havent even been able to leave the house because someone has to always be here. Neither my Mom or Grandmother show appreciation for me doing this. I want to get my GED and go to Community college. I pisses me off that Ive not talked to any of my friends not be able to be a kid my for the last year and I get n o appreciation for anything please give me some advice Im really starting to get depressed.

I’m 19 and I’ve always been a good kid. Get good grades, a sophomore in college to become an RN, responsible, never been in huge trouble, blah blah blah. My mom has always said that if I get a tattoo that she will cease paying for the rest of my college. Grant it, I am paying for most of it in scholarships myself, but she still does have some Parent Plus loans out. I really don’t think she would actually do it; however, I would like a way to make her more okay with the idea. I don’t want anything huge or elaborate. I would love an Alzheimer’s ribbon, possibly on my shoulder to commemorate grandmother/great-grandmother who is currently suffering. The process of this disease has had a huge impact on our family. My second idea is a small equal sign by my heel just symbolizing that I walk on equal ground. I see the equality in all individuals. I find tattoos beautiful, but my mom has always said that she can’t think of anything important enough that she would want on her body for the rest of her life. I have my ears double pierced, one cartilage, one tragus, and my nose. I’m easy on the eyes needless to say. I’m not covered in piercing or have funky hairstyles. So I really want to make her okay with the idea of me getting one before I graduate college. Any advice would be lovely. My mom is young yet. She is 37 if that adds any details to the story.
I think I could get away with not telling her if I got the one on my heel, but the one on my shoulder would definitely not go unnoticed.

Are patients usually well cared for? This is supposed to be a good care home but I just want to make sure. I’m scared and afraid because I love my dad. My mom has kept him home until now but she’s getting very tired.