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A credit card company turned over a delinquent account (about ,000) to a legal firm who sent a letter to me, his son, stating that they will be seeking a judgment.

My father has been in a adult care facility for about six years – he is 92 with advanced Alzheimer’s. His wife died last year and she was the only one using the credit card since he was admitted. The credit card was in my father’s name and my step-mom had power of attorney. I have recently been appointed as his guardian and conservator.

Currently, my father still gets Social Security and a pension. The cost of the care facility (,500/mo) and his medications (0-500/mo) utilizes all of this money. He has about ,000 in savings which is slowly decreasing to make up the difference. He has no other assets.

What can happen under these circumstances? Can a judgment be used to garnish his pension and/or Social Security? Can the courts ruling force payment from his savings? Is there any legal ramifications towards me as a conservator if I do not pay?

My Grandpa has Alzheimer’s and tomorrow and basically all week I’m going to baby sit him. Most of my family just leaves him alone all day and he freaks out about where his wife went and who is going to pick her up and where is his van and all this stuff. He usually goes and walks to the mail box 10 times a day. So I’m baby sitting him for money and I don’t want to ignore him all day so is there anything that we can do to keep his mind occupied while my grandma is working? I will be over about 9am-4pm… If I take him for a walk around the neighbor hood, will there be a chance he will walk around the neighbor hood again? I don’t want him to get lost.

~Thanks every one
If it helps he is 86 and grew up in the Philippines… I already know a lot about him. Sometimes he still thinks he is young and in the Philippines.

My Grandpa has Alzheimer’s and tomorrow and basically all week I’m going to baby sit him. Most of my family just leaves him alone all day and he freaks out about where his wife went and who is going to pick her up and where is his van and all this stuff. He usually goes and walks to the mail box 10 times a day. So I’m baby sitting him for money and I don’t want to ignore him all day so is there anything that we can do to keep his mind occupied while my grandma is working? I will be over about 9am-4pm… If I take him for a walk around the neighbor hood, will there be a chance he will walk around the neighbor hood again? I don’t want him to get lost.

~Thanks every one

Im 19 years old and i have a few friends. One in particular, one of my few friends who is a girl has this little high horse mentality. well so it seems… for example I was talking to her one time and she was telling me how she was trying to find another job. she told me how she went into "hard rock cafe" and she got an interview on the spot. she then told me that she didnt want the job anymore so she bombed the interview. but they called her up a second time because obviously her "bombing" the interview wasnt good enough for them so she had to lie and tell them she got another job. ending off our conversation with a he ha ha laugh and "so what have YOU been up too?" and once i say my piece she says "sounds boring". im not sure if this is my jealous side or if im just being stupid.

it doesnt help at all that she knows my situation. im currently unemployed, im not going to college because of financial set backs, in this economy the only thing i can settle for is a job at mc donalds which im still waiting for. she rubs it in that shes going to school and that she has a job (hostess at planet hollywood) and she always asks me whats up in my life. i hate giving her updates cause it gives her more ammo to shoot me down.

i feel like a loser and like i have nothing going on in my life when im around her… i try to stay positive. i’ll be working really soon (dont care what kind of job as long as i make money), and ive been doing some unofficial caregiving jobs here and there which helped me decide to go into healthcare so when i get back to school i know exactly what im going to do.

should i reevaluate this friendship? why does my friend try to make me fell like sh*t? anybody else go through something similar?

She has not been declared mentally incompetent, she can write and sign her name, but insists on giving her children the money in her bank accounts because she doesn’t want the government to get it because of what happened on Wall Street and she is paranoid. She also lived through the Great Depression. Can we accept this money? And what happens if she has to go into assisted living or nursing home? She gets a good amount per month from SS.
My brother has a durable power of attorney for her financial affairs but she INSISTS on giving all of us money as GIFTS to help us out on our mortgages and such. We just don’t know whether to accept it or not. I did research and it says she can give up to 000 per year. I don’t think she’ll have to apply for Medicaid because of her income and other savings and she’ll also have VA benefits if she has to go into assisted living. We are so confused.
I meant to say 000 per child or grandchild per year is what I’ve been told.

I’m 15 and I really need a job. I live in Lake Forest CA and I’m looking like a caregiving or babysitters job because I grew up taking care of my brothers and sister. I also take care of my house when my parents are working. I need the pay to help support myself and my school needs. Money is tight with my parents right now. If someone can help me get started, that would be great.

I’m 22, live in NYC with my dad, I really dont wanna stay there though because my mom has alzheimers and my sister was born mentally handicapped, its EXTREMELY stressful to be there everyday, it really is. The rent in manhattan starts at 00-00 minimum. If you go with the Bronx, Brooklyn, or Queens, it’s like 0-0 minimum.

I currently make an hour at this job, I was also making /hour at my last job for all of last year. I’ve only been at this job though for 3 months. I’m a Data Librarian, I’m basically responsibile for the entire stockroom/back office of this art showroom. It involves a lot of clerical/administrative-like tasks as well as assisting/communicating with clients who visit the showroom. It’s a full time job, 9-5, Mon-Fri, paid 30 min lunch and holiday/sick day.

There’s only 5 of us total that work there (me, 2 sales people and 2 managers). The head MGR told me at the start that I will be making K a year which is really .50/hr but SHE says its /hr, which is odd. She said its not her decision it’s this lady who’s in charge of the head office in L.A. Mind you, shes very nice and told me this in a polite manner.

I confided with 1 of my co-workers about this raise issue, she said I should just come out and tell the boss that I would basically like more money. But I’m scared though, I know the employer doesn’t care about what goes on in your personal life or why you need money for this and that, so I don’t even know if telling her about my moving out situation will make a difference.

She does know about my mom and sister’s conditions however, but not about me not able to move out due to my income. I can’t go on any other job interviews because every place that wants to interview me can ONLY see me during the hours that I work (Mon-Fri, 9-5), plus I dont want my boss to suspect that I’m betraying her by looking for another job. I’d be much happier if I were making at least anywhere between – an hour.

I’ve been making an hour since March friggin 2006 for christ’s sake. I NEED TO LIVE ON A LIVABLE WAGE. Help me, what should I do? Should I just come right out and confide in my boss?
There’s no overtime, the office hours itself are 9-5 Mon-Fri.

I am the sole cargiver of my alzheimers parents & prepare all their meals. My mother constantly sets perishables out on the counter to rot or pours them down the drain when I am not looking. Probably because she knows its wrong otherwise why wouldn’t she do it when I can catch her. I need to be the only one able to access perishable food, we can’t afford to waste the money & food.

What way can I key lock a full size refrigerator. Does it require altering the refrigerator? the refrigerator is part of the apt. rental so I wouldn’t be able to screw in hardware. Would a bike chain be big enuf to go around locked with a padlock? Please any ideas out there?

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My uncle has ALS and needs everyday attention for his needs at home, which is ok for the matter that he would have 1 to 2 years left at the least as he continues to get the right help at home, his caretaker is his wife but she is unable to do it as she had surgery herself, so they setup a so called plan with a nearby hospice, where they would give her a 5 day break from the caretaking, while in the meantime his wife trys to find alternative help after hes released in the 5 days. Now while he is at the hospice, hes in some pain from the ALS, so they give him some medicine which i truly believe is a form of morphine, which knocks him in a vegetable state for the most part. The pain medicine he takes at his house does the job for his pain and there was no need for him to need morphine at the hospice ( the hospice did say he was taking the same meds as he was taking at the house, which is a lie because whatever they gave him put him in a vegetable state) , and thus he is in this vegetable state, he only eats once i think, since they cant give him any ivy or he instantly dies, well nonetheless he was only there 3 days and they call us saying he passed away. Now i know they did something there that killed him as he was not on his way out, he was only there because to give his wife a 5 day break from caregiving. I would bet all my money that they gave him a form of morphine which he did not need and of which destroyed him during his 3 days there, and when i say a vegetable state, i mean completly out of it, cant eat, etc. Does it sound like i have a good case, and that i can seek legal action against this hospice?
I mean, is it possible for the wife to seek legal action?

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My husband is in the very early stages. He knows it and it bothers him terribly. His mother and 3 aunts died from this disease.

My husband brings in all the money. Military retirement, service connected disability VA benefits and social security. We were in a bad auto accident and I am unemployable at 46.

He is only 67. He insists on managing the money and even though he makes an adequate income for our family of 4, we are always overdrawn and unable to meet our financial responsibilities.

If I managed our income we could live within our means. He always says "MY money, MY money"

Any ideas how I can gain control of our family finances, before it is too late?

Our home will be paid for in 4 years with appropriate financial planning.

God Bless you ALL! You all are wonderful!

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