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through the years my grandma has always been pretty sharp. she has always been very stubborn and hates it when shes wrong. but lately, for the past couple months, i have noticed a change in her behavior. she has always been the nice one while my grandpa was the grumpy one, but lately she has been acting out for every little thing! she has been very….. touchy i guess. she gets mad super easily and to her nothing is ever her fault. when shes wrong, she gets mad, when something is missing, she blames others and gets mad. today we were planing a meal for a family get together for about 25 people. i had found some snacks in the freezer that i thought we could use for the party. obviously there weren’t enough, but we could still use them. my grandpa told my grandma, "i don’t think there’s enough." and my grandma flipped. she slammed the snacks on the table and said, "fine! we wont use them. GOD!" then she tried to laugh her way out of it a few minutes later. little incidents like this one have happened almost everyday for a couple months. she never calls when she knows she will be home late. sometimes she will visit a patient (shes an IV nurse) and she will be gone for hours! no one knows where she is! she will come home around 11:00 pm and say she just went shopping.. i guess she could be stressed since we moved in with her last year…. but i don’t think so because we have helped her quite a bit. am i over reacting? could it just be the fact that shes stressed? she really worries me! i love my grandma so much! she has always been there for me and now she has been very difficult! especially to my grandpa! please help! my grandma means the world to me!

Alright, so me and a friend are doing a short 30-40 min "Men’s Bible Study" for some older adults at an adult day care center. These guys are in the stages of alzheimers, but still can comprehend. Does anyone have an idea for a lesson or Bible passage that we can focus on for today?

My roommate, who I have lived with for 11 years, has an elderly mother who is showing very many signs of alzheimer’s. I have known my roommates family since I was a teenager they are kind of like family.

I have nothing against elderly drivers if they can operate their vehicle properly and are safe. Unfortunately I don’t think my roommates mother falls into this category anymore. I found out how poorly she drove when I was actually letting her test drive a car that I was thinking of selling. When I was in the car with her I was starting to fear for my life. She drifts over the center line, over corrects and doesn’t apply the right amount of pressure to the gas pedal. Making her go either too fast or way to slow sometimes. She also gets disoriented easily.

Just yesterday one of her daughters took her to lunch then when they got to her house she turned around and asked her daughter "Who are you?" Then her daughter said "It’s me Kate" Then she said "You don’t look like my Kate." She also has trouble working her appliances so I feel strongly she shouldn’t be driving. I have to go over and reteach her how to use her TV about once a month and I know she gets help from others with it too. I also have to show her how to use her stove. I don’t mind I am just concerned.

My roommate just lost her 80 year old father a few months ago and whenever I mention her mother she just doesn’t want to talk about and gets mad and says her mother "Isn’t showing signs of Alzheimer’s! She just gets confused!"

I don’t want to upset her and I know it is hard to see your parents lose their independence but we are talking about people’s lives here. She could fatally injure herself and/or someone else if she mistakes the gas for the brake or a green light for a red light.

My roommate says she is fine because she doesn’t drive at night and she only drives around town but I don’t think this is enough. I know someone who had an elderly stepmother run over and kill someone. I also see stories on the news of elderly drivers running their cars through a farmers market or through stores mistaking the gas for the brake.

She has just bought a new car from her grandson. Which I was sad to see. I decided to not sell her my car after going on the test drive because I wouldn’t want the guilt if she hurt someone using a car I sold her knowing she was a bad driver.

So my question is can I secretly call the BMV and tell them what is going on and would they help? I don’t want to make anyone angry but this is serious. I also don’t want any drama but I have mentioned it to her family members quite a few times and they are minimizing the situation and acting like it doesn’t exist.

I heard her daughter was already contacted once by her doctor concerning her mothers driving and getting her memory tested. Then the daughter said she doesn’t really like that doctor and was irritated by what the doctor said. Should her doctor be the one to call the BMV?

I know many people would say it isn’t my business but She is almost like a second mother to me and I don’t want to see her hurt herself or someone else.

Anyone have any advice?

Hi i’m 20 years old, a female, and i’ve been going through some very difficult things in my life. I take care of my grandmother, who has alzheimers, by myself. As in my family doesn’t help me,(except for 3 people) they all live in CA and i’m really far away. It’s just me and her, in our house, and i’ve been taking care of her for about 5 years…so that’s since i was 15 years old.

This has made my life very stressful, and to add on to it, I have some body issues. I was always told when i was younger that i had a big tummy and that i need to lose it or suck it in. Seriously who says that to a 11 or 12 year old girl?? There’s times were i feel soooooooooo huge. I’m about 5"7 and i’m 160 or so pounds. But i’m also very top heavy (38DD) And also i have a big butt and thighs, i guess i have a hourglass figure…..a huge hourglass figure >_>

I am in a relationship right now, with a great guy who says i’m beautiful and he loves my body and me on the inside…….i just wish i could see myself the way he does…
woah 0_0 i’m not THAT depressed were I would kill myself or her…..I know suicide isn’t the answer

My roommate, who I have lived with for 11 years, has an elderly mother who is showing very many signs of alzheimer’s. I have known my roommates family since I was a teenager they are kind of like family.

I have nothing against elderly drivers if they can operate their vehicle properly and are safe. Unfortunately I don’t think my roommates mother falls into this category anymore. I found out how poorly she drove when I was actually letting her test drive a car that I was thinking of selling. When I was in the car with her I was starting to fear for my life. She drifts over the center line, over corrects and doesn’t apply the right amount of pressure to the gas pedal. Making her go either too fast or way to slow sometimes. She also gets disoriented easily.

Just yesterday one of her daughters took her to lunch then when they got to her house she turned around and asked her daughter "Who are you?" Then her daughter said "It’s me Kate" Then she said "You don’t look like my Kate." She also has trouble working her appliances so I feel strongly she shouldn’t be driving. I have to go over and reteach her how to use her TV about once a month and I know she gets help from others with it too. I also have to show her how to use her stove. I don’t mind I am just concerned.

My roommate just lost her 80 year old father a few months ago and whenever I mention her mother she just doesn’t want to talk about and gets mad and says her mother "Isn’t showing signs of Alzheimer’s! She just gets confused!"

I don’t want to upset her and I know it is hard to see your parents lose their independence but we are talking about people’s lives here. She could fatally injure herself and/or someone else if she mistakes the gas for the brake or a green light for a red light.

My roommate says she is fine because she doesn’t drive at night and she only drives around town but I don’t think this is enough. I know someone who had an elderly stepmother run over and kill someone. I also see stories on the news of elderly drivers running their cars through a farmers market or through stores mistaking the gas for the brake.

She has just bought a new car from her grandson. Which I was sad to see. I decided to not sell her my car after going on the test drive because I wouldn’t want the guilt if she hurt someone using a car I sold her knowing she was a bad driver.

So my question is can I secretly call the BMV and tell them what is going on and would they help? I don’t want to make anyone angry but this is serious. I also don’t want any drama but I have mentioned it to her family members quite a few times and they are minimizing the situation and acting like it doesn’t exist.

I heard her daughter was already contacted once by her doctor concerning her mothers driving and getting her memory tested. Then the daughter said she doesn’t really like that doctor and was irritated by what the doctor said. Should her doctor be the one to call the BMV?

I know many people would say it isn’t my business but She is almost like a second mother to me and I don’t want to see her hurt herself or someone else.

Anyone have any advice?
I see some trolls are biting but I hope to get some serious replies too.
@ roger Thanks for giving me some serious feedback :] It’s nice to know someone else has been in this situation. I am definitely call the BMV tomorrow and look up and see if I can find something to fill out online. I really don’t want to see anyone get hurt but if she continues to drive even just around town someone is bound to get hurt. The car she has been driving has dents all over it so I know she is bumping into stuff.

I just googled elderly drivers to see if there was any info and I was bombarded with stories of serious accidents that are happening almost everyday by elderly who were driving when they shouldn’t have been.

If the BMV doesn’t help I will call her doctor to see if they can have her license pulled.

*I already posted this…but i think i put it in the wrong category…and NO I’M DEFINITELY SUICIDAL OR ANYTHING LIKE THAT*

Hi i’m 20 years old, a female, and i’ve been going through some very difficult things in my life. I take care of my grandmother, who has alzheimers, by myself. As in my family doesn’t help me,(except for 3 people) they all live in CA and i’m really far away. It’s just me and her, in our house, and i’ve been taking care of her for about 5 years…so that’s since i was 15 years old.

This has made my life very stressful, and to add on to it, I have some body issues. I was always told when i was younger that i had a big tummy and that i need to lose it or suck it in. Seriously who says that to a 11 or 12 year old girl?? There’s times were i feel soooooooooo huge. I’m about 5"7 and i’m 160 or so pounds. But i’m also very top heavy (38DD) And also i have a big butt and thighs, i guess i have a hourglass figure…..a huge hourglass figure >_>

I am in a relationship right now, with a great guy who says i’m beautiful and he loves my body and me on the inside…….i just wish i could see myself the way he does…

I’m just curious, since I’m seeing a lot of righteous indignation from the left when anyone even remotely suggests that taking a shot at Ted Kennedy is off limits. And Reagan didn’t even drive an innocent girl off a bridge, leave her in cold, murky water to die and then lie about the whole thing. Reagan’s worst offense was acting with a monkey as a co-star.
I forgot to mention, I recall many, many jokes about Reagan’s memory loss back in the day from the annointed left. It went like this "Reagan has Alzheimer’s, that explains a lot, blah blah" Ha ha, went the leftists. Poking fun at Killer Ted? Booooooo!!

received an "update" email from my 51 year old boyfriend about a horrible family problem he is having. At the end of the email he explained that he loved me and would be out of touch for some time as he was travelling to solve the problem (this I know is true). My problem is this… he already told me every single detail of this email when we talked about a week ago. I don’t know why he is repeating himself and in the end he told me he loved me and would be in touch soon. I am suspicious of this email.. it makes no sense that he sent it. When I questioned him about it, he said it was an update. I didn’t need an update, I already knew what was happening. Am I paranoid if I think he sent this email in bulk to me and may some other women? He is a huge flirt but I have never caught him being unfaithful. He is not crazy and not suffering from any disease that would make him forgetful although he has suffered several concussions from playing professional sports . I just want an honest opinion about his behavior… I have no problem leaving him if he is seeing other women.

In his "update" he explained he had a grandchild now; we were at a resort together the day the baby was born so I obviously knew. Also, we had discussed the medical issue facing his family and I did some research and sent him some hospital info before he sent me his "update". His "update" explained the medical problem as though I had never known this before.

I don’t. I think they’re a load of crap. They always tell me that I’m neat and meticulous and methodical. And they always have all of these boring descriptions for Virgos that are like the exact opposite of me. Like this one, for example.
"With an acute attention to detail, the Virgo is the sign in the zodiac most dedicated to serving. Their deep sense of the humane leads them to caregiving like no other, while their methodical approach to life ensures that nothing is missed. The Virgo is often gentle and delicate, preferring to step back and analyze before moving ahead." I’m not gentle and delicate. I’m a look before you leap type of person. So…wtf?

I think everyone thinks they’re stupid, but fun to read. Is that how you feel?

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how does one deal with the question from that relative, "i’m ok and ready to come home now", every time one visits that person?
Do you keep bsing and telling them, "Not until the doctors say it’s ok", or do you tell them they’re never coming back to what they remember as their last home?

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